Domestic Violence Awareness Month began with the first Day of Unity observed in October 1981 by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Read more…
Domestic violence is one of the most significant violence issues in our communities. It may also be one of the more preventable types of violence. But prevention requires awareness and knowledge of the violence dynamics involved. It also requires action.
Many years ago, I lived two houses down from a young woman in her twenties. She was married and had a toddler. One evening, as I came home from work, I saw her in her yard. She had a black eye and bruises on her face. It was an accident, she said. She had fallen and hit her face. I was a young attorney, pre-occupied with a trial, and I didn’t pursue the issue. I didn’t do anything to support her or to refer her to resources. And neither did the other neighbor who lived next door to the woman and had heard her screaming.
This woman is no longer alive. Her husband shot her in their home a few years later, by accident, he said. He was never charged.
You can start with educating yourself on domestic violence issues. You can learn about supporting a friend or acquaintance that you know or suspect is being abused by a partner or spouse. But bear in mind that ultimately people subjected to abuse must make their own decisions on what actions to take.
It’s also important to remember that abusers often burt their partners without leaving any obvious signs like visible bruises or black eyes. Abuse often starts with emotional and/or mental intimidation, manipulation, coercion, and control tactics. Abusers often isolate their partners from friends, family, co-workers, and others. to learn more call your local domestic violence organization support line.
Here are some resources:
Montana Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence (providing contact information for Montana domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking resources as well as other state and national resources)
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. But awareness or wearing the color purple isn’t enough; it’s only a start. Inform yourself, get involved, become part of the movement to make lives better.
What is domestic violence? What do you associate with the term domestic violence?
Domestic violence can be described as the systematic use of physical, emotional, mental, economic, and/or sexual abuse tactics to gain and maintain power and control in an intimate relationship.
Abusive partners often isolates their partners from friends, family, acquaintances, co-workers and others. Isolation is one factor to watch for.
If you are interested in learning about how to help someone in an abusive relationship, contact your state domestic violence coalition. They may have resources for you or refer you to your local organizations.
Here are some resources:
Who poses the greatest risk to women and girls? Where are they most likely to be assaulted?
It’s not the stranger hiding in the woods. And it’s not in strange, remote places. Most women and girls are attacked by men they “know” (partners, acquaintances, “friends”, neighbors, coaches, instructors, teachers, clergy, etc.) in places people generally consider safe.
The greatest risk isn’t stranger danger, but non-strangers betraying trust, manipulating, and coercing their targets in mental, emotional, economic and various other ways, not only physically.
Risk awareness and reduction, and boundary setting and enforcing are an important part of holistic self-defense.
Human Trafficking Resources
National Human Trafficking Resource Center Tel 1.888.373.7888
Human Trafficking in US Schools (a resource for educators from the US Department of Education)
National Domestic Violence Hotline, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
National Sexual Assault Hotline, RAINN, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
Dating Violence National Dating Abuse Helpline, 24 hour Hotline: 1-866-331-9474
Runaway and Homeless Youth National Runaway Safeline, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)
Missing Children and Child Pornography National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-THE-LOST (843-5678)
Suicide National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
The movie The Hunting Ground is a powerful, disturbing new movie by the Academy Award nominated producers of the Invisible War.
It tells the story of sexual assaults on campuses across the US, the role of big business university athletics, and institutional cover-ups.
It also highlights the pain and courage of the survivors who stood up to their universities and tried to hold them accountable.
The response of the universities was outrages. No meaningful follow-up; no accountability. The film ends with the admonition to students, parents, and faculty to hold their universities accountable.
If we do nothing, these rapes and sexual assaults will continue. College athletics is big business. Athletes are prized assets for these universities. Students who were raped or sexually assaulted apparently are dispensable.
What will you do? Contact your board of trustees at your university? Contact the board of regents? Contact your alumni associations? Support your university or local or state anti-violence associations? Learn more about holding your universities accountable?Here are some resources:
The recent bombings at the Boston Marathon and last year’s elementary school shooting in Connecticut have captured people’s attention. The media have inundated us with coverage about these horrendous acts of violence. People are outraged, to the extent that no-one wanted to provide a grave site for the dead Boston bomber.
Yet another type of violent criminal that lives in almost every community often escapes any repercussions or legal responsibility. Many people forget, ignore, or maybe aren’t even aware of the violence that happens regularly in their neighborhoods. Read more…
In connection with our R.A.D. Systems Sexual Assault Prevention workshop on February 23 and 24, 2013, we’ll discuss drug and alcohol facilitated sexual assault. The most common “date rape drug” is alcohol. Here is some information from the womenshealth.gov website on Rohypnol, Ketamine, and GHB:
What are date rape drugs?
These are drugs that are sometimes used to assist a sexual assault. Sexual assault is any type of sexual activity that a person does not agree to. It can include touching that is not okay; putting something into the vagina; sexual intercourse; rape; and attempted rape. These drugs are powerful and dangerous. Read more…
January is Stalking Awareness month. Stalking is a crime under Montana law and under the law of the every other state in the United States. It is also a crime under federal law. Read more…