Domestic Violence – Self-Care

Domestic Violence Awareness Month began with the first Day of Unity observed in October 1981 by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Read more…

Domestic Violence – “Accidents”

Domestic violence is one of the most significant violence issues in our communities. It may also be one of the  more preventable types of violence. But prevention requires awareness and knowledge of the violence dynamics involved. It also requires action.

Many years ago, I lived two houses down from a young woman in her twenties. She was married and had a toddler. One evening, as I came home from work, I saw her in her yard.  She had a black eye and bruises on her face. It was an accident, she said. She had fallen and hit her face. I was a young attorney, pre-occupied with a trial, and I didn’t pursue the issue. I didn’t do anything to support her or to refer her to resources. And neither did the other neighbor who lived next door to the woman and had heard her screaming.

This woman is no longer alive. Her husband shot her in their home a few years later, by accident, he said. He was never charged.

You can start with educating yourself on domestic violence issues. You can learn about supporting a friend or acquaintance that you know or suspect is being abused by a partner or spouse. But bear in mind that ultimately people subjected to abuse must make their own decisions on what actions to take.

It’s also important to remember that abusers often burt their partners without leaving any obvious signs like visible bruises or black eyes. Abuse often starts with emotional and/or mental intimidation, manipulation, coercion, and control tactics. Abusers often isolate their partners from friends, family, co-workers, and others.  to learn more call your local domestic violence organization support line.

Here are some resources:

Montana Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence (providing contact information for Montana domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking resources as well as other state and national resources)

National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence

National Network to End Domestic Violence

National Sexual Violence Resource Center

National Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center



Domestic Violence – Wearing Purple isn’t Enough

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. But awareness or wearing the color purple isn’t enough; it’s only a start. Inform yourself, get involved, become part of the movement to make lives better.

Here are some events this week:
Bozeman, October 8th, Taste of HAVEN
Dillon, October 8, Dillon Women’s Resource Center Women’s Symposium

What is domestic violence? What do you associate with the term domestic violence?

Domestic violence can be described as the systematic use of physical, emotional, mental, economic, and/or sexual abuse tactics to gain and maintain power and control in an intimate relationship.

Abusive partners often isolates their partners from friends, family, acquaintances, co-workers and others. Isolation is one factor to watch for.

If you are interested in learning about how to help someone in an abusive relationship, contact your state domestic violence coalition. They may have resources for you or refer you to your local organizations.

Here are some resources:

Montana Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence

National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence

National Network to End Domestic Violence

National Sexual Violence Resource Center

National Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center



Who poses the greatest risk to women and girls?

Who poses the greatest risk to women and girls? Where are they most likely to be assaulted?

It’s not the stranger hiding in the woods. And it’s not in strange, remote places. Most women and girls are attacked by men they “know” (partners, acquaintances, “friends”, neighbors, coaches, instructors, teachers, clergy, etc.) in places people generally consider safe.

The greatest risk isn’t stranger danger, but non-strangers betraying trust, manipulating, and coercing their targets in mental, emotional, economic and various other ways, not only physically.

Risk awareness and reduction, and boundary setting and enforcing are an important part of holistic self-defense.

Human Trafficking Resources

Human Trafficking Resources

Montana Department of Justice

Montana Code Annotated 2015 on Human Trafficking 

National Human Trafficking Resource Center  Tel 1.888.373.7888

Survivors’ Guide to Leaving

Polaris Project

Online Training for Educators 

Human Trafficking in US Schools  (a resource for educators from the US Department of Education)

National Educators to Stop Trafficking (NEST)

Trafficking Resources for Law Enforcement

TIPS Report 2015

Human Trafficking Search Net

Shared Hope 

Not For Sale 

Trafficking Indicators

2014 Mansfield Conference Resources

National Domestic Violence Hotline, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Montana Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence 

National Sexual Assault Hotline,  RAINN, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-656-4673

Dating Violence National Dating Abuse Helpline, 24 hour Hotline: 1-866-331-9474

Love is Respect

Runaway and Homeless Youth National Runaway Safeline, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)

Missing Children and Child Pornography National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-THE-LOST (843-5678)

Suicide National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 24 hour Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Montana Anti-Trafficking Project

The Hunting Ground

The movie The Hunting Ground is a powerful, disturbing new movie by the Academy Award nominated producers of the Invisible War.

It tells the story of sexual assaults on campuses across the US, the role of big business university athletics,  and institutional cover-ups.

It also highlights the pain and courage of the survivors who stood up to their universities and tried to hold them accountable.

The response of the universities was outrages. No meaningful follow-up; no accountability.  The film ends with the admonition to students, parents, and faculty to hold their universities accountable.

If we do nothing, these rapes and sexual assaults will continue. College athletics is big business. Athletes are prized assets for these universities. Students who were raped or  sexually assaulted apparently are dispensable.

What will you do? Contact your board of trustees at your university? Contact the board of regents? Contact your alumni associations? Support your university or local or state anti-violence associations? Learn more about holding your universities accountable?Here are some resources:  

The Hunting Ground

Montana Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence

National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence

National Sexual Violence Resource Center

End Rape on Campus

Culture of Respect

Know your IX

RAINN: Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network









Don’t Ignore Violence Next Door

Niagara Falls

The recent bombings at the Boston Marathon and last year’s elementary school shooting in Connecticut have captured people’s attention. The media have inundated us with coverage about these horrendous acts of violence. People are outraged, to the extent that no-one wanted to provide a grave site for the dead Boston bomber.

Yet another type of violent criminal that lives in almost every community often escapes any repercussions or legal responsibility. Many people forget, ignore, or maybe aren’t even aware of  the violence that happens regularly in their neighborhoods. Read more…

Drug Facilitated Sexual Assault and Rape

In connection with our R.A.D. Systems Sexual Assault Prevention workshop on February 23 and 24, 2013, we’ll discuss drug and alcohol facilitated sexual assault. The most common “date rape drug” is alcohol. Here is some information from the website on Rohypnol, Ketamine, and GHB:

What are date rape drugs?

These are drugs that are sometimes used to assist a sexual assault. Sexual assault is any type of sexual activity that a person does not agree to. It can include touching that is not okay; putting something into the vagina; sexual intercourse; rape; and attempted rape. These drugs are powerful and dangerous. Read more…

Stalking Awareness Month

January is Stalking Awareness month. Stalking is a crime under Montana law and under the law of the every other state in the United States. It is also a crime under federal law. Read more…

Sexual Assault and Rape Defense Courses

Three Rivers Defense offers sexual assault and rape prevention and self-defense courses this fall at our location in Three Forks and at your locations throughout Montana. Read more…